Fertility Vs. Fulfillment: What Needs To Happen In Order For You To Be Happy?
Hey everyone! This week’s blog post is written by a friend of mine: April Adams. I will like to quote my favorite affirmation of her article: “What if you could be happy now, regardless of your gestational status? Wouldn’t that feel good?” – Marc
It’s so easy to get carried away with dwelling on what we want.
I’ve definitely been there. For me it was wanting my relationships to remain in the honeymoon phase. Forever. In fact, that’s the understatement of the century. I was obsessive, controlling, depressed and anxiety ridden for years over it.
I wanted it with all my might and believed it was the ONLY thing that would make me happy.
I know you can relate. When you’re struggling with fertility, wanting to bring forth new life with EVERY OUNCE OF YOUR BEING, it can seem like the the very meaning of your life is hanging in the balance.
What you may not know is that your very persistence can be the thing holding you back. The more you focus on what’s missing, the more you perpetuate your lack of it.
How do I know this?
Well, the more I focused on what was missing in my love life, the more it slipped from my grasp. But once I began to focus on other things and changing my mindset, I started receiving the passion and romance I longed for.
This is the biggest dichotomy of our existence. What you resist persists. The trick is to surrender to what is.
I know, I know. Believe me, I know. It sounds ridiculous, and kinda impossible.
But really, what good is it doing for you to fixate and obsess? I know it took its toll on me. Eventually I became so miserable I had to do SOMETHING. So I began working to shift my mindset.
The thing that helped me the most was the realization that I was the common denominator in all of my relationships. I had previously placed all of the blame on my romantic partners for the lack of passion. Once I realized that the struggle was all inside of me and coming from my mindset- my perceptions- my EXPECTATIONS, everything began to shift for the better.
Who or what are you blaming for your difficulty conceiving? What are you telling yourself about wanting a baby? Are you telling yourself the story that you won’t be happy until you have a healthy pregnancy? Then what? You won’t be happy until 3 months has gone safely by? Then 6, then a perfect delivery?
Can you see how this cycle can perpetuate itself and create a constant sense of waiting for something out of your control to happen before you allow yourself to be happy or at ease?
What if you could be happy now, regardless of your gestational status? Wouldn’t that feel good? Why would you want to deny yourself of that kind of peace? It’s all about shifting your focus away from what’s missing and toward feeling good now.
Make no mistake, the deeper you’ve been struggling, the more mindful you will have to be to step out of it. But I guarantee that once you start enjoying life rather than focusing on what you’re lacking, the more you will attract what you desire. You may even find your purpose in the process of letting go of obsessing. I sure did.
To get moving in the direction of creating a more positive life for yourself now, I recommend the books “Your Erroneous Zones” by Wayne Dyer, “The Power of Now” and “A New Earth” by Echkart Tolle, “You Can Heal Your Life” by Louise Hay and most of all, my own book “Essence: Ending Emptiness, Finding Fulfillment.” The movie “What The Bleep Do We Know?” Is also a real eye opener.
I also offer a free webinar of a complete protocol for shifting your life for the better at YourTotalFulfillment.com, This is the exact program I used to heal myself and create the life of my dreams. I hope it helps guide you toward your bliss and the most fulfilling life you can possibly experience!
1. Free Webinar:
If you’re a woman who seems to have it all but feels emptiness or longing inside, wonders where the passion and romance in your relationship went, and hopes this day-to-day lackluster routine isn’t all life holds for you…
It’s time to get started on the life of your dreams, NOW!
BONUS: For all those who attend, you’ll have the opportunity for a FREE consultation with April. She’ll help you control your busy mind, find greater meaning in life, experience fulfillment, and create the kind of passion-filled, vibrant life you’re longing for.
April Adams is an Emotional Fulfillment Specialist, Author, Intuitive Life Coach, Certified Presence Meditation Trainer, and Reiki Master. She has helped countless women, and a few open minded men, to step out of their personal struggles bringing passion, empowerment and fulfillment to their lives. She specializes in combining the power of the mind with the power of the spirit in order to create the best possible life. She is the creator of the Metamorphosis Hypnosis Program, The Essence Healing System and the author of the book “Essence: Ending Emptiness, Finding Fulfillment.” April is the owner of The Retreat on Elm in downtown Manchester NH.
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