Hope when you’re trying to conceive
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In this video, I’m going to talk to you about how you can create hope, resiliency and possibility in times of crisis, and what this can mean for your fertility. This video called to me. I believe that it’s a message that you all need to hear right now, so stick around till the end and you’re going to learn how you can create the pregnancy of your dreams. Before we begin this video, I want to do a quick announcement that I’m doing a live, where I’ll be talking about how to improve egg quality to get pregnant. Click the link below to register for this live masterclass. You can’t miss it if you want to get pregnant in 2020, so click below.
Hi, I’m Dr. Marc Sklar, the fertility expert and I worked with couples from all over the world helping you get pregnant naturally. So if you want my help, then make sure you subscribe to my channel just by hitting that bell so that you know when I put out a new video for you. Before I begin, I just want to quickly announce that I’ve opened up the application process for all of you to apply for a discovery call to work with me in my group coaching program. All you have to do is use the link below in the description to apply. I want you to know that I am here for you, and I want to help you. So let me know how I can support you. Make sure you leave a comment below and just let me know. So I want to start off by letting you all know and reminding you all that I am here for you.
Truly, I want you to know that in times of crisis, we all need somebody to lean on and you can lean on me. I want to be part of your support team to help you get through this crisis, and hopefully get through this in a better way so that when we’re on the other side of this, you’re ready to thrive and you’re ready to be pregnant if not already pregnant. All right, so this is really why I’m just looking at my notes, to make sure I cover everything that I wanted to. This is really why I decided to create this video. I had a list of other ideas of things that I wanted to record. Every time I sat down to record those videos, none of them really spoke to me right now. This one kept coming up, and this idea of how can we conquer this crazy virus in these difficult times and how can we really use this to our advantage, kept coming up as a big topic that I felt that I needed to talk to all of you about.
So enough talking about all the fear and difficulty associated with the virus and epidemic that’s going on right now. Let’s get into some real stuff that can be useful. Okay? So often the most challenging times in our lives define us. They impact us, and they set the trajectory for the rest of our lives. I believe that we are all in that time right now, and these times can really define the rest of our life. I want you to grab hold of this time and make something special, so that the craziness and the fear doesn’t define your future. That you take control of it and that you define your future. All right. I’m not sure if that makes sense for all of you, but I know all of you have had a moment in time if not multiple moments in time, that were very challenging and very difficult and somehow you came out on the other side of it in a different way, and hopefully in a better way. The same thing happened to me.
About 10 years ago, I had a really challenging time in my life. It was challenging because I had a thriving business. I had a great business partner and then all of a sudden, my business started to crash. The clinic wasn’t doing as well. Times were hard and more than anything, I wasn’t getting along with my business partner. He wanted to go one way, I wanted to go another way and things were really challenging. Okay, and not only that, I was scared. I was scared because I had spent so much time and effort and resources building this clinic and building this relationship with my business partner that I didn’t want to see that go down the toilet. On top of it, I depended on this clinic and the money that I brought in from the clinic to support my family. I had one young child, I had another baby on the way, and this was scary for me.
We had gone months without bringing in any revenue. I was disagreeing with my business partner in so many ways. He was doing very little to support the practice, and he wanted to go in a different direction than I wanted to go. My passion has always been around reproductive health, fertility and women’s health and he wanted to go in a different direction and that just didn’t call to me. So I had to make a difficult decision. It was one of the most difficult decisions of my life. I had to decide if I was going to go with him along this other path, or if I was going to make a difficult choice and break away from him and follow my heart and my passion. Although that was an easy decision from here in my chest, it wasn’t an easy decision up here because I was taking a big risk. I was taking a big risk in the sense of where was I going to be after all of this was done. How was I going to support my family?
I was the primary person who was bringing in income into the family at that time, so what was I going to do? I made a very, very difficult choice to separate from him because I felt like in the long run, it was going to be the best choice for me and my family to move forward and to be able to thrive and succeed. It was a difficult breakup. It’s essentially a divorce. It was a difficult time financially for me and my family, and it was a difficult time just all in all. I had anxiety, I was a little bit depressed. I had put in all this time and effort into this clinic, and I was watching it wash away. I was nervous, right? Where was I going to go after that? But once I made that decision, I moved on. I moved on and I was focused, and I was determined to succeed and build something bigger and better, and follow my heart and follow my passion. That’s really what I did, right?
So as soon as I made that decision, the fear just melted away. The anxiety subsided and the depression lifted. I was focused and I was determined to succeed, not only for myself, not only for my family, but for all of my patients and all of the people that I wanted to help in the future, including all of you. Even though this time that we’re going through right now is obviously a little bit different, we all have the same emotions. We’re scared, we have a lot of fear. We might be anxious and depressed and nervous. You’ve put in all of this time into your fertility journey. You’ve been told that you can’t try right now, or you have to try in a different way, or your IVF cycle was canceled, or maybe you’re just nervous about this whole thing. So you’re determining that you want to put things on hold. Whatever it is, it’s thrown off your daily routine. It’s thrown off your regular schedule and it’s thrown off your plans.
That leads tumultuous times and lots of anxiety and fear, and we can’t live in fear. We can’t make proper decisions in fear. Most importantly, we can’t create something amazing in fear. So what I want all of you to do right now is I want you to reflect back just like I did, on a time that was really difficult for all of you. I want you to remember how difficult it was and how hard that journey was to get through. Then I want you to remember what it was like on the other side when it was over. Remind yourself that you got through it, you succeeded, and now you’re a stronger person for it, right? So I want to do the same thing for all of you right now through this crisis. I want to take you through this so that you can be stronger and better, and more fertile and able to create and conquer anything that you want during or after this entire crisis.
So now that you’ve thought about that time before that you can recall, I want you to comment below if you’re comfortable. Let me know what was that like for you, and how did you succeed and make it through to the other side? I know that your fertility journey has been hard, it’s been difficult, and this certainly doesn’t help the situation. But let’s flip the script. Let’s change the way you’re thinking about this right now. Let’s wash away the fear. Let’s get rid of the anxiety. Let’s lift the depression and let’s focus on what you can do right now. I want you to ask yourself a couple of questions. The first one is who do you want to be during this difficult time? Do you want to be that person who is bogged down and anxious, and nervous and scared? Or do you want to be someone who says I’m going to kick ass during this time? I’m going to conquer this virus. I’m going to make sure that I thrive through it and I’m going to make sure that I’m super fertile now and when I am done with this.
Who do you want to be? What choice do you want to make right now? Then I also want you to ask yourself, what do you want to create now? Now that you have more time than ever to create something, what is it that you want to create so that it can be something special when all of this is done? I know some of you haven’t looked at that, but some of the most amazing things have been created in times of crisis. Shakespeare created some of his most famous plays when he was quarantined and locked up during a time of epidemic. During the Great Depression, the electric razor was created and tampons were created. During the last financial crisis, I think it was about 10 years ago, Uber was created. There are so many opportunities during times of crisis to come out of it, and create something amazing and special. So I’m asking you, what do you want to create? What do you want to be motivated by?
Not just for your fertility, although this is what I want you to focus on as well, but also beyond that. What’s something special that you can create right now with all the time you have? Did you ever want to sit down and write a book? You’ve got the time for it. Did you ever want to create a video? You have the time for it. Did you ever have these wild inventions that you wanted to create to help humanity, but you never made the time for it? You now have the time for it. What are you going to do during this time to make it special, unique and amazing for you? I also want you to ask yourself is what are you going to do to create a healthy body, a fertile body and an amazing body right now that you can utilize now to get pregnant during this crazy time and afterwards, right? Are you going to make the choice to sit down and watch Netflix and watch the news, and be bogged down by those things? Or are you going to turn it off and are you going to be productive?
You have the power. You can make this choice. So I’m asking you what choice are you going to make now? I want you to know that I believe in you, and now is not the time to withdraw from the world. Yes, we’re asked to stay home. Yes, we’re asked to social distance, but it’s not the time to withdraw and disconnect from the world. Now more than ever is the time to reconnect. Reconnect with the world, with your family, with your partner, with yourself. Take time to reconnect with friends you haven’t seen in a long time, or spoken to in a long time. Now is the time to connect. Yes, in a different way, but it’s still time for us to connect. So don’t withdraw, don’t isolate. Stay connected, but do it in a safe way. I want you to wake up tomorrow with hope, with a feeling of possibility and with a sense of resiliency. What are you going to create? What are you going to do now?
I want you to know that you’re going to get through this better than you ever thought, stronger than you ever thought and more fertile than you believed you could. Are you ready for this? I believe you are, but are you going to take the chance and the chance on yourself to make something special? So my last question for you is, what do you need from me? How can I support you during this time of crisis? I want to be there to support all of you. So let me know how I can support you and anything that I can do in my power, I absolutely will. So please make sure you leave a comment below, and let me know how I can support you. I want you all to remember that I believe in you. I believe you can do something special, and I believe you are fertile. Now I want to see what you can do.
Remember to click the link below to register for the live training coming up, where I’ll be talking about how to improve egg quality to get pregnant. Click the link below to register for this live masterclass if you want to get pregnant in 2020. So if you found this video meaningful and powerful and hopefully motivating, I want you to give me a big thumbs up because you liked it. If you’re not already subscribed to my channel, make sure you do. Just hit that bell. If you want more videos that I’ve already created to help you get pregnant naturally, you can check them out right here. If you want to take a minute to apply to work with me and my team so that we can support you in my group program, then you can click right here to apply for a discovery call. Until the next video, stay fertile.